Anger clouds your vision. Anger is like a skin irritation. Anger is a bitter taste in your mouth that makes all the food you eat taste bad. Anger wears you out.
Don’t be fooled. Anger makes you feel less, not more, alive. Anger restricts your ability to take in and appreciate new things, changes, and growth.
Anger is a beast that can be tamed. This is your task. How can you tame anger? Give it no energy. Don’t feed it. Walk away when it runs up to you. Walk, don’t run — if you run, it will chase you.
Start now.
This is a quote from the Spiritguidance website.
It’s a pity I didn’t think of that earlier when I was on the phone. I usually take a long time to get angry. That of course explains why Telkom is one of the few to have received my wrath – they’re one of the few that keep me holding the hour or so it usually takes. This time though I was already angry when I made the call. I was ready to rage and tell them what scum they were. Why? I’ve never even met this person. But she and her deceitful lawyer husband have made the life of someone very close to me very unpleasant, lying, misleading and threatening.
I got through to her. I told her she was scum. She put the phone down. All I managed to do was perhaps make her Valentines Day slightly more unpleasant, and get myself worked up.
I was an exceptionally angry child. I used to shout and scream on the tennis court making my double’s partner life a misery, and hit my poor cat if it annoyed me. I managed to deal with the anger, more or less, at quite a young age, but occassionally a reminder pops up. Expressing anger is not the way, as some advocate. Perhaps it’s better than suppressing it, but expressing it is like adding fuel to the fire, it just perpetuates the habit. Acknowledging anger, and then moving on, is the way.
So, my apologies to the victim of the angry call. Though I still look forward to her getting sued 🙂